This post was originally posted on August 26, 2014 after a 18 months moonlighting as a "person".
Compliment Giving Tips:
What they think they've said: "You look fantastic! You've lost weight, right?"
What they actually say: "Wow, you lost a lot of weight. You were huge before!"
What they think they've said: "You're so skinny and look more beautiful than ever!"
What they actually say: "No, but really, you were HUGE before. (Insert hand gesture here) Like, you had a beautiful face but ya, you were really fat! But you look good now!"
Ok! Sooo here's the skinny, remember the rules you learned in kindergarten, "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" and "treat people the way you want to be treated", ya, follow those! It's always wonderful to give and receive compliments but make sure you're not actually insulting the person. Losing weight is just as much an emotional journey as it is a physical journey and we are always the same person on the inside. Nothing feels better than when someone notices all the hard work but it stings when they refer to who you were before as if they don't exist any more.
That being said, I'm ready to divulge the big secret weight loss tip that everyone wants. Are you ready????
EAT THE EFFIN' COOKIE!!!!
If it's a cookie, cupcake, chocolate bar, or Ben & Jerry's Salted Caramel Core ice cream, just eat it. Kate Moss was full of shit, or probably kale, when she said "nothing tastes as good as skinny feels". If there is something in this world that makes you happier, shouldn't you do it.
Now, I'm not saying to go crazy and eat a pint of ice cream a day, or eat 2 dozen Red Velvet cupcakes a week, but treat yourself every so often. You deserve it. I can't keep the world happy if I'm not happy myself.
These little treats help keep me motivated to eat healthy. And speaking of healthy foods, make that fun too. As a kid who believed ketchup was a vegetable, and parsley was the green sprinkles from the devil sent to ruin all things pasta and buttery, I am here to say that brussel sprouts are delicious and not everything green is nasty. Except broccoli, no one wants to eat tiny shrubbery and here is not an amount of cheese than can make it ok.
I daily thank god for Pinterest and the millions of options for new recipes to try. I used to hate cooking because I feared the "what if it doesn't taste good?" Who cares? If it sucks, throw it out and order dumplings. But you don't know if it's going to be delicious until you try. Worst case scenario, it's horrible and you have a funny story to share with friends.
Besides eating better foods, exercise has a big component and strengthening my physical and mental health. Who knew? Diet and exercise. That sounds awfully familar. My time walking to the gym, cardio and lifting is just as mental as it is a workout for my body. I always make sure I have an outfit I feel comfortable working out in but still feel attractive in. It sounds like I'm trying to pick up the hot body builder, honestly, I'm not, well maybe a little, BUT, I find that if I like what I'm wearing, I'll go anywhere and do anything. Mentally, I want to feel just as confident at the gym as I do heading out for drinks with friends. If you have the right attitude, good music jams and the right outfit, you can conquer anything. 5 miles, no prob! Just watch!
Mentally, exercise keeps the stresses of the world at bay. I try and channel my inner Elle Woods "Exercise gives you endorphins, endorphins make you happy, happy people just don't kill their husbands!" It's true though. My time at the gym is mine! I can't work out and give you my 6pack abs (they are there, dammit!) It's my time to work through whatever's in my head and to just let it go. It's one of the only things that we can do that others can directly benefit from. Now, I haven't become a gym rat and I can't say I follow a strict schedule but I look forward to going and always feel a million times better walking out than walking in. I know I'll never be super skinny, muscles out blaring, look at me chicks, and I'm fine with that. After 3 full years of living a better life, I can proudly say that I am better inside and out than I ever was. And tomorrow, I'll be even better. It's a day to day journey with slow results but results and a lifestyle that will last forever.
The focus at the gym keeps me grounded throughout the work week mentally and helps keep the cookie cravings to every so often. It's always that last half mile and last set of reps that I challenge those cookie cravings. Was the 5 minutes of sugary joy worth it? Sure, in the moment, but for a lifetime of happiness it's all about balance. You don't need weight watchers, crazy hours of Zumba, years of not eating bread. Find what works for you and make sure you enjoy as much of it as possible. Have fun trying new recipes, make an awesome gym playlist to keep you running, and most importantly, do what makes you happy. The world needs more happy and we are the ones who can make the difference. Now, GO get a cookie and start living your better life!